I have written about the support that a partner/spouse provides to someone living with cancer—with prostate cancer and for young adults with cancer—and I always include the partner in discussions about treatment choice or sexual difficulties.
But a number of my older patients are single, and their experiences of facing treatment and survivorship alone are profoundly moving.
A cancer diagnosis can shake people’s self-confidence, making them feel betrayed by their body or as if they don’t have as much control over their future as they once did, Ms. This loss of confidence can make it harder to pursue a relationship.
Start to rebuild your confidence by reminding yourself what you have to offer a potential partner and the traits you value most about yourself.
The type of man I meet aren't the type that would worry about such things.it is never the reason why things don't go further. I can't see any reason why someone in our age group would not date a cancer survivor. (from someone who HAS crossed that street) I would really have to evaluate the situation if it ever came up in my life again.
I think that your illness is more in the forefront of your mind than it would be in a potential mate/date. I once dated a cancer survivor...every single flippin' chance he got he would refer to himself as a "transplant body"! This isn't the reason we're no longer together but it sure was annoying.
As it turns out, men and women both struggle with identifying the best time to tell a new love interest about their cancer history.I told him I used to be shier than I am now, that I haven’t ever worked in an environment conducive to meeting single men, and then I put it all out there, the single most pertinent reason for my absence from the dating scene: I’m a two-time cancer survivor.I felt as though I would be lying if I didn’t mention this to him, because, after all, I’ve been dealing with leukemia in some form or another for the past five years.My male patients are often overwhelmed by the number of single women who respond, instantaneously for one of my patients, with identical “likes.” I never knew so many women were interested in hunting and fishing—or who think that men are!My female patients report that the men they meet don’t look much like their profile photos—hair loss and 20 pounds of extra weight are often the reality of meeting in person. My patients ask me what they should do next—and having never registered a profile myself, I am not able to provide much more than common sense suggestions.